I think this is the first time I post sensitive topics like this but what the hell. I’m going to be 20 next year so I don’t think that this is going to be a problem since this is my blog so I could post anything I want. Bear in mind though that what I’m about to share is literally my point of view and based on the stories people told me. Which leads to me being scared about marriage haha and I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only human being that have this fears. Both male and female have this problems whether they are single or divorced. Actually I can really talk a lot about this topic but to make it short I’ll just give few reasons why I am currently.. scared of marriage. Don’t get me wrong though, everyone wants to get married but some are just afraid.
The main reason would be because I am afraid if my partner screwed up. By this I literally means if he have affairs behind my back. Because I know that I wouldn't do such things when I’m in a relationship or even when I’m married one day but lately I've seen quite a lot of marriages crumbled because of this particular problem. I still can’t find any reasons why people cheat in a relationship. I meant come on. Relationships are meant to be taken seriously. It is not something you can play around with. Seriously. If you feel like your marriage is not working well, then try your best to fix it and if it fails then you can get a divorce. But never cheat on your partner when you’re married. For me that is the most cruel thing a person could do when they’re married. Another thing that I really don’t understand is that the woman that is having an affair with someone’s husband. Are you really clueless, desperate or are you just really stupid? Why do you have to come in and ruined other people’s life?
Another reason why I’m afraid of marriage is because I fear the change of feelings in my future life partner. For example, an unmarried couple can promised the whole world to each other, tell their bf and gf how much they love them every single day as much as they can, some even say that “their love will get better with time or when they get married” or I’m so glad that you’re mine, you’re perfect for me. huh. Right now, after what I've heard and seen, I really don’t trust these kind of sweet words. Before this I used to think that when people get married, that’s it. happy ending. little that I know that; with time, people change. when people change automatically feelings change as well . you will see a different side to the person you used to know and you will think that is this the guy/girl that you used to love? If I ever get married I never ever want to encounter to this kind of situation where I have to sit down and think things like “why is this happening to me? or why is he behaving this way?” it's a horrible feeling..
But I think that both of the reason that I give just now sums up to one thing. maybe I’m just afraid of losing the marriage or the thought of getting hurt by the person you shared everything with. I've been hurt quite a lot in the past and to be honest, I’m afraid of putting my heart at risk of getting hurt. I've seen loving couples that got divorced because they decided that their partner is not worth their time anymore. I've seen people that cheat on their husband/wife. Which is something I thought they would never do considering the fact that they’re very loving people. I think those who are divorced are also afraid of getting married again because of this matter. No one wants to get hurt. I don’t know how to react if I found out that my husband did something like this. urgh it’s a terrible feeling. gosh I wonder how do people handle this kind of situation. Is divorced the only solution? ntaaahh..serabut dah.
I honestly know that marriage is not an easy thing to handle for both male and female. There’s children, bills, jobs, love life and etc. So for those who actually did well in their marriages until now, Congratulations! Both of you did really well, just continue making each other happy and even if I don’t know who you are, I wish for the best for your marriage life. Maybe my point of view will change one day but for now this is what I think when it comes to marriage. I should set this aside and focus on my studies first because its my main priority plus I’m only 19, right haha.
